tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post1545446531323432802..comments2023-09-21T14:20:02.343+01:00Comments on Biscuits & Blisters: Sexual assault and me. And so many others.Louise Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07942543130083841567noreply@blogger.comBlogger186125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-31086955529281989072015-05-04T12:58:25.074+01:002015-05-04T12:58:25.074+01:00I could have written this post. I don't know w...I could have written this post. I don't know why I never have. <br /><br />16: guy on the train masturbating while eyeing me up. He approached me later on the platform where we were both changing trains. I made sure to get in a different carriage for the next part of the journey.<br /><br />21: crammed into a carriage on the Paris Metro. With my parents. WITH MY PARENTS. Guy touching me up from behind. Carriage was too crowded to move away. I did nothing.<br /><br />24: waiting for a train at Clapham Junction. Guy asked if I'd like to go back to his flat with him. Said no. Moved to other end of the platform. He followed. I got on the next train, even though it wasn't mine.<br /><br />And so on. And so on. <br /><br />I don't know why I never screamed, dug an elbow in, told my parents who were standing RIGHT THERE. Because I'm a good girl, I suppose. And good girls don't make a scene, don't make a fuss.<br /><br />Never again.Roshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02669423378438380019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-560935170264350392015-04-30T13:17:42.801+01:002015-04-30T13:17:42.801+01:00I was assaulted on the train this week, and no-one...I was assaulted on the train this week, and no-one did anything to help me, even though it was fairly obvious I was distressed, yet frozen. The train company haven't even replied to my complaint. I felt like I was really alone and then I read this. Thanks for highlighting it publicly. These perverts need to be stopped. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951464940429209918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-79559501271732577342015-04-29T22:32:29.213+01:002015-04-29T22:32:29.213+01:00Thank you for highlighting this sort of behaviour....Thank you for highlighting this sort of behaviour. I'd never have guessed that it was so prevalent.<br /><br />I will be sure to keep a look out for this sort of thing in the future.Clement Hootshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08924163101140722048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-45719623809938891372015-03-09T16:51:28.289+00:002015-03-09T16:51:28.289+00:00Well, being a pervert myself, I'm in a good po...Well, being a pervert myself, I'm in a good position to give women some advice on what to to when being molested. At least, this is how I would like women to react. First, gather courage and look the guy firmly, showing you're not ok with him touching you. You can say something like "Excuse me, I'm I disturbing you?" or something like that. Most pervs will back away (I would). If that doesn't work, push him away with a elbow to the stomach (don't be gentle, we pervs are quite solid) or step on him with your high heels if you're wearing that. If the guy still doesn't get the message, that means he's a real hardcore pervert, and may actually be dangerous. So it's ok to make a fuss in that case, even call the authorities.<br /><br />No women who is being groped should feel guilty for having attracted the attention of a pervert. Subway perverts/gropers are visually attracted to the same kind of women has any normal man (beautiful and sexy women), they just express their sexual attraction in a deviant way.You were just unlucky and did nothing wrong.<br /><br />So, why do I give this kind of advice, being a pervert myself?<br />Because there are actually pervert women too, who have the fantasy of being groped. They are a minority, of course, and we perverts love to find one (I could tell you stuff you wouldn't believe...). So the sooner normal women hint their displeasure, the sooner we can go on with our search and not "waste" time on normal women.<br />I have to point out that some perverts get off on making their targets feel uncomfortable, real molesters. They really are scum.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-66887540504241862922014-12-27T16:03:46.757+00:002014-12-27T16:03:46.757+00:00Brilliantly written - passionate with a powerful e...Brilliantly written - passionate with a powerful end! Very well said.Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10282029770260743079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-7042598226237176012014-10-11T06:54:28.883+01:002014-10-11T06:54:28.883+01:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.information virushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02934209599003214413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-516637933689196072014-07-05T21:36:44.688+01:002014-07-05T21:36:44.688+01:00I'm so sorry you had to experience that :(I'm so sorry you had to experience that :(Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06357577200901766104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-79495342383452992792014-03-28T00:05:54.422+00:002014-03-28T00:05:54.422+00:00I'm afraid too. I will do whatever necessary t...I'm afraid too. I will do whatever necessary to not travel on public transport or to not be alone out in public because the thought of being sexually assaulted makes me really terrified.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-16543180731875342862014-03-20T19:41:14.867+00:002014-03-20T19:41:14.867+00:00thank you so much for this post! it really shed so...thank you so much for this post! it really shed some light on sexual assault for me Veronica D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08715232809481487324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-66589418409110648032014-03-18T18:31:40.623+00:002014-03-18T18:31:40.623+00:00I am 16 years old and live in the US.
The only se...I am 16 years old and live in the US. <br />The only sexual assault I have experienced was when I was in 8th grade and a boy who I was flirting with pushed me up against the lockers and groped me. When it was happening, I felt scared stiff; unable to move or make a sound. Afterwards, he pretended like nothing happened, so I did too. I didn't know what to think of it, I was ashamed and embarrassed. I blamed myself for flirting with him and felt dirty and gross. I never told anyone. <br />Before 9th grade, I had never heard of sexual assault. I wish someone had told me that what I experienced was not okay and in no way my fault. I think my feeling of embarrassment and shame is common, and even encouraged in society. That is probably why people don't talk about it. We need to start talking.<br />Thank you for this blog post, it is so brave! I know it has inspired me and others to speak out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-79705564127322935522013-12-20T16:34:33.377+00:002013-12-20T16:34:33.377+00:00This blog deserves to be included in my competitio...This blog deserves to be included in my competition <3<br />Hi, I'm hannah...<br />I'm almost at 2000 views after a few months of blogging and i'm doing a blog giveaway on my latest post.<br />There's a small easy and free competition to win a little mixed hamper!<br />Can you help me spread the word please! Anyone who see's this is welcome to join in in the chance to win a mix of goodies!!<br />Anyone who see's this can give me a follow and enter the competition! Thank you to anyone who helps me out and gets involved!<br /><br />thegirlwhobakes-andmore.blogspot.co.uk<br /><br />Thanks! And good luck! <3 xxxCakes and Flourshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15000056032800970282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-46296719181914751502013-12-20T16:34:00.045+00:002013-12-20T16:34:00.045+00:00This is so inspirational! You are such a strong yo...This is so inspirational! You are such a strong young woman well done xxxCakes and Flourshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15000056032800970282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-41249517872855710212013-11-04T11:58:42.779+00:002013-11-04T11:58:42.779+00:00me again. But I think it's worth pointing out ...me again. But I think it's worth pointing out that I wasn't even wearing anything 'slutty'. (jeans, tshirt with the anorak/jacket over the top)<br />Some people are just animals. Full stop. I just can't even believe people DO THAT especially on PACKED TRAINS.<br />Women have to put up with the most disrespectful shit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-20614412955114212282013-11-04T11:45:16.109+00:002013-11-04T11:45:16.109+00:00I googled train related sexual violation tonight b...I googled train related sexual violation tonight because it just happened to me today for the first time.<br />Packed trains, me thinking it was peoples bags pushing into me, riding my jacket up.<br />only to eventually realise there was a dirty fucking indian pushed up right behind me pushing his boner into my ass against my jeans while feeling my ass up. & actually LIFTING MY JACKET OUT OF THE WAY.<br />I've never felt so revolted or filled with rage in my life.<br />I'm standing on the train. Packed to the brim, forced against people & this guy thinks he can just shove his disgusting junk (in every sense of the word) against me!? <br />He better hope I don't see him on the train tomorrow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-74620089509243470302013-08-27T16:15:48.112+01:002013-08-27T16:15:48.112+01:00This is a great argument for a girls education tha...This is a great argument for a girls education that teaches them from a young age how to avoid this or to protect themselves. Imagine how susceptible the very young are to this. Imagine a world where a girl takes pride in blooding his nose or poking out an eye. Wouldn't they be disappointed in a victim turned mad woman.Sandi Billingsleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11031241941768406418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-49705844685241118212013-05-16T21:38:52.577+01:002013-05-16T21:38:52.577+01:0017 was absolutely the worst age for me for this. I...17 was absolutely the worst age for me for this. I remember one day in the summer coming home and saying to my mother 'I feel that if it happens one more time I will punch the man in the face'. I never did though, which I deeply regret. ...https://www.blogger.com/profile/01091213938795498181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-48162943387063815172013-05-16T21:34:38.811+01:002013-05-16T21:34:38.811+01:00I think bending their fingers back would be a good...I think bending their fingers back would be a good one.<br /><br />I had to laugh at the woman who commented on Jan 11th that she believes these men to be mentally ill! Even rapists are not often diagnosed with a mental illness. Unless you can count 'getting sexual pleasure by abusing strangers' as a mental illness the vast majority of these men are NOT mentally ill!...https://www.blogger.com/profile/01091213938795498181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-41148885640614059652013-05-10T16:47:42.201+01:002013-05-10T16:47:42.201+01:00Such a great post. I feel disgusted on your behalf...Such a great post. I feel disgusted on your behalf and on behalf of anyone ever affected by something as vile as this.<br />Physical sexual assault never happened to me before but it's terrifying and frustrating to think about. We shouldn't have to worry about these things happening - ever.Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03516554701242885196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-55226020957669371252013-05-08T10:19:53.308+01:002013-05-08T10:19:53.308+01:00Nice post and information.Thank you for taking the...Nice post and information.Thank you for taking the time to publish this information very useful. Escorts Londonhttp://www.palacevip.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-47233934106589893732013-02-26T18:12:59.389+00:002013-02-26T18:12:59.389+00:00I've had this happen only once to me, and I al...I've had this happen only once to me, and I always imagined myself turning around and slapping the guy square in the face but I didn't. I just froze for a second and moved away as far as I could. I know a girl who was alone on a tram at night and some guy started assaulting her and she just couldn't move. She was 13. It's absolutely disgusting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-75700677734691632962013-02-13T04:55:10.936+00:002013-02-13T04:55:10.936+00:00Just no excuse for such behaviour.A beautiful girl...Just no excuse for such behaviour.A beautiful girl I once knew not surprisingly had many suitors,some of whom who were hopelessly out her league,and who went too far.One seedy type indecently assaulted her,made lewd remarks and even tried to kidnap her,but she misguidedly didn't report these ugly incidents to the police.If I'd have seen him,I would've battered him and called the police myself on her behalf.She never deserved such treatment.Contact has been less frequent recently,but we still occasionally send friendly messages to each other.<br /><br />A year or so back,I saw another unsavoury incident where a young woman was harassed by a man on a bus late at night;she was clearly upset and I nearly took action,but she walked to another seat and thankfully nothing else happened.All I can say to any female if they are victims of any sexual assault,just report it to the police without hesitation.Bridge Columnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16858681926188901934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-43071300393059945292013-02-02T20:05:16.542+00:002013-02-02T20:05:16.542+00:00I cannot comprehend how difficult it was for you t...I cannot comprehend how difficult it was for you to write this and dredge up up all these assaults, I cannot come to terms that this happens on public transport and is unreported .<br />I have read this twice and it upsets me and makes me angry that you were exposed to this , I hope you carry on getting stronger to stand up and destroy this scum .<br />Good Luck to you and all the best for the future. neil watkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04644554406532061298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-8907423432492983582013-01-27T21:18:17.653+00:002013-01-27T21:18:17.653+00:00Yes, it's sadly very true. I've experience...Yes, it's sadly very true. I've experienced assaults too. I reported it to London Underground on one occasion but they said they couldn't find any cctv evidence even though I gave a pretty accurate report of when it happened. It would be great if we could start speaking out about this more whether to the authorities or to each other.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-76786759501120796162013-01-24T23:24:00.644+00:002013-01-24T23:24:00.644+00:00Well written piece. I'm sorry this happened to... Well written piece. I'm sorry this happened to you and I'm sorry it happens at all. And no, not your fault in any way, shape or form. No matter what you'd been wearing, it is not an invitation. But thank you, for writing so honestly about this.Owennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5682614115630015882.post-40291249576724768882013-01-24T15:45:53.043+00:002013-01-24T15:45:53.043+00:00Hi there, my name is Anisa and I am a reporter wit...Hi there, my name is Anisa and I am a reporter with the BBC. I am doing some research at the moment and would be interested in speaking to you. Could you please make contact with me at newsbeat@bbc.co.ukAnisa Kadrinoreply@blogger.com